So I finally got back to school (work) today. I was just a wreck this week. I made a positive/negative list to stare at when I got myself worked up or when I consulted Dr. Googl.e for too long. Pretty much the only thing that was on the negative side is the spotting (that happened two times) and there was an answer for what it could have been caused by. I also wish we would have seen a definite fetal pole or a clear heartbeat (gosh, why didn't I think to ask my RE when she said I'm not able to detect a "clear" heartbeat. Does that mean she thinks it's there?) but I know that it's still ok that they didn't.
I do have a question for you which is completely non-TTC related...
This will sound random, but I was sitting outside on our swing on our deck with Mr SC and our dogs. We have an acre or so of land and a neighbor next to us (not on top of us and separated by our detached garage). On the other side of that neighbor is a man who owns land who is trying to do stuff with it (so, this is quite a bit away). No fences.
Now, I've only been doing this country livin' thing for three years or so. I'm a city girl at heart so this is why I'm asking...
Dude just walked into our yard and started talking to us (we know him by name, but not well at all). Is this customary? Isn't there an unspoken "invisible" fence of sorts? Or, am I just minding my personal space too much when I was used to concrete, paved roads and avoiding eye contact with people at all costs?
Kelly, I'm sorry I didn't respond to your earlier post. I'm sure everyone has told you this already, but you are absolutely NOT a failure. You've been through some really hard shit and going through a really stressful, difficult time right now.
ReplyDeleteHugs. You're doing the best you can. It is not easy.
As for the country livin' question, it kinda depends on how friendly the neighborhood is. Unlike a neighborhood, there's no common area so people will come over and say Hi at times if they want to talk to you...if you're in a place where this is normal, like my brother. But my parents also live out in the country and this wouldn't be normal for them - but their land is much bigger (40 acres). I guess it just depends on the area and how friendly everyone is.
Hope you have a good weekend. Thinking of you.
I hope the weekend goes fast.
I have a house in the city and a house in the country (40 acres)...in the country that is normal for us, heck our neighbors who live 2 acres away drove up on our lawn the first time I met them...lol. It kinda freaked me out but I have gotten used to it.
ReplyDeleteKeeping you in my prayers .
I am sorry that you are going through this with the wait until your u/s. I am thinking of you and sending lots of +++ thoughts!!
ReplyDeleteI live in a small town & neighborhood. It is fairly common for people to come over to say hello or to talk for a little while. It does not happen every day but does occur, especially with the weather getting nicer.
I'm so sorry that you are going through so much right now. Sending you many positive thoughts.
ReplyDeleteI grew up in a very small town in Pennsylvania and it was normal for neighbors to drop by like that. Actually my parents thought their neighbors were mad at them because they didn't wave when they drove by their house anymore!
I grew up in AL in the country and yes, it's common (and customary) just to pop over and say a friendly "hello" to their neighbors. I know, it's weird ... especially when you live north of the mason dixon :)
ReplyDeleteNormally I never wish my weekend to speed by. But for you, I'll trade it in so that time can pass more quickly.
Sending positive vibes & hugs your way, hoping everything turns out fine & you get some reassurance very soon:)
ReplyDeleteIn regards to your neighbor question, I'm opposite of you grew up in the country & am now in the city, but yes it's quite common to have a neighbor stop by for a friendly hello if you're outside.
I hope your weekend is better than your week!!
ReplyDeleteI grew up in the country and it's very normal for people just to walk into your space and start talking. My family farm is fenced in, and even then our neighbors would walk right up to the house/garden/orchard to say "hello".
I hope you're hanging in there...I've been thinking about you a LOT and I'm still praying and sending lots of positive thoughts!!
ReplyDeleteI have never lived in the country, but I do live in the south, so I think there are some fair comparisons there. And, YES, it is super normal (and even expected, really) that you just stroll over into your neighbor's yard to say hello and chat if you are out. At the very least, you HAVE to wave, or the whole frickin neighborhood will think you are THAT person. The one who doesn't like to VISIT.
;-)
Hang in there- keeping you in my thoughts.
ReplyDeleteI agree with everyone else, depends on the "neighborhood" In some places I lived in the country it was quite common, and in others not so much. They were always generally more friendly, but that could be because you aren't right on top of each other lol.
Hang in there, Kelly. You are doing SO well, and I am happy you are keeping your mind busy during this wait. I'm thinking of you.
ReplyDeleteAs for the neighbor thing, it's pretty common down here in the south, but I could see it being normal in rural areas up north. I remember the first time I saw someone in the neighborhood wave when we moved south. It really freaked me out! No one waves in New Jersey. You are more likely to get the middle finger where I grew up. :)
I think it's completely normal to drop by. I personally hate it, but I think I'm probably the weird one for wanting people to call first...
ReplyDeleteSinding you good thoughts for your ultrasound!!!
I think it's good to keep your mind as busy as you can. It's a tough thing you are going through and whatever you have to do to help, is a good thing.
ReplyDeleteI've lived in country and city places. In the city we were in an apartment so the only way to talk was to knock first. However, NOT in the city it's pretty normal to just walk over to your neighbor if you want to talk to them...unless there is a fence, of course. There are times when people get a little too friendly and I just want to sit outside and relax, but for the most part it's just a come on over type of atmosphere.
I'm a city girl so I can't comment on the neighbor but hopefully he was just trying to be friendly!
ReplyDeleteI've been thinking of you and really hope you get some reassuring news this week. You are doing absolutely everything you can so try not to be too hard on yourself. You have been through so much..sending you hugs.
I've been thinking about you a lot and praying every night, Kelly.
ReplyDeleteI live in the south too, but don't know if the town I live in is very indicative of southern neighborliness. No one really talks to their neighbors here. In fact, I have one neighbor who looks at me like I kicked his dog and his best friend every time I see him. It's really bizarre. I always say hi though....
maybe if we lived next door to one another, you'd think I was 'that neighbor' too!