One of the many reasons that I enjoy taking Nittany to Dock Do.gs competitions is because it's pretty much kid-free land. Some people have kids but if they do, they don't bring them and they definitely don't talk about them incessantly. It's been so nice.
So, back at a competition in the end of July, I thought one of the women who jumps her dog was pregnant. I immediately felt a pit in the bottom of my stomach. However, later in the day, I saw the woman smoking. I immediately felt relieved. After all, what kind of pregnant woman smokes, knowing all the dangers?
The pit in my stomach came back yesterday, because there she was, with her adorable baby bump.
It took everything I had not to say something to her. I wanted to impore her to be thankful for what she had.
In the end, I went and found a quiet place (no small feat at a dog event) and found myself praying. I haven't prayed since last October when we lost our little bean. I prayed for strength and for the ability to accept. I'll never understand, but I want the ability to live with what's happenend to us.
In the end, I got up on the dock for the first time and jumped Nittany myself at Mr. SC's urging. He's always thought it would be good for me. I guess I'm a half decent fur-mommy, since she jumped two inches shy of her personal best on her first try with me!
First of all, congrats on the great jump. That is so awesome that Nittany did so well for you!! :)
ReplyDeleteAs to the smoking pregnant woman. I just have no words. I can't imagine how hard that was to see and deal with. I'm just so sorry.
Oh Kelly. That just sucks beyond belief. What a stupid woman, to smoke while pregnant. Some people just do not understand what a miracle they have and they are the ones that infuriate me the most. I'm so glad you jumped Nittany yourself, it sounds like it was a very empowering situation, and Nittany seems to have liked it :) Congratulations to you both for overcoming major hurdles.
ReplyDeleteIt's so hard when our safe places are taken away. And to think of a pregnant woman smoking, all I can do is shake my head.
ReplyDeleteIn the meantime, go you and go Nittany!
I am so sorry that you lost your safe zone, it sucks that sometimes there is no escape. I cannot believe that woman was smoking while pregnant, I am going to hope that she did not know yet but still.
ReplyDeleteYou are way more than half-decent!! I am so sorry about your safe place, but it sounds like you tried to claim it back! HUGS
ReplyDeleteYou're a better woman then me..I would have been all up in her face..Esp. after what we have had to go through to be pregnant at all..Some people just don't have a clue..And Im sorry your safe place was taken away..There needs to be places around that are "pregnant free". I know..discrimination..but still..It'd make life just a tad easier..
ReplyDeleteAlso, there are dock dogs competitions this year at our state fair..I watched one & thought of you & Nittany. It was the coolest thing ever!! Congrats on her jump and your great fur-baby mommyness!!
You have a lot of self control for not saying anything to that woman. How unfortunate she was really stupid in her choice to be unhealthy even though she is pregnant. Sorry you had to see that.
ReplyDeleteI think it is awesome you get your dogs involved in that type of stuff. I have an Australian Shepherd and a Border Collie and have been thinking about wanting to do that because we do a lot of it at home. How did you ever end up getting started with the competitions?
Ignorant people! Sorry you had to endure that honey, its just so hurtful.
ReplyDeleteHowever, you WILL be joining that group with a baby bump of your own very soon, just keep the FAITH. I know its hard, so hard, but I believe in your miracle.
Many HUGS
Ugh, I'm sorry you had to see that and go through that yesterday. I agree with the rest, you have A LOT of self control. I can't believe how stupid some people are and how they don't even appreciate what they have. =(
ReplyDeleteAnd YAY for Nittany! That's awesome she jumps so far with you! I believe it, it def has something to do with you =).
People are so careless....My sister works as a nurse in a Nursery at a local hospital and gets women all the time who test positive for pot or worse...its just sickening but its the world we live in:( Not fair....Glad you and your pup had such a great jump!!!!
ReplyDeleteThat just makes me sick to my stomach. And it makes me question further how people like that are capable of becoming mothers, yet there are so many of us who would make excellent mothers and have not been given that chance. I know a number of people who drank liquor, smoked, and/or did drugs during their pregnancies, and it just makes me sad. Because people like us would never do something that to our babies. I'm so sorry that your safe zone was ruined, but I'm so glad Nittany jumped well. I know you are a proud furbaby mom!!! :)
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I think you did a very good thing by escaping away and praying for strength - you are one seriously strong woman. Unbelievable about that woman.
ReplyDeleteNice work on jumping Nittany! So exciting!
Yay on jumping Nittany and even more yay for getting her so close to her personal best!!
ReplyDeleteAs for the woman smoking...you're a better person than I! I wouldn't have said anything to her directly BUT I would have walked past commenting on it VERY loudly, so she knew I was referring to her. It's 2010, who still smokes when pregnant?!?
Maybe they should bring in a law that if you're caught smoking or drinking while pregnant, you automatically have to give your baby up for adoption...if they really cared and wanted the baby, they wouldn't risk their habit!
Big hugs
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I'm glad you prayed and it helped. I also think Nittany notices you were feeling bad and jumped extra high for you!
ReplyDeleteI am sorry about the rough day. Couple of years ago I would just kinda' look down on those careless, pregnant woman but now, I look at this from a totally different aspect. I am mostly very bitter, and angry seeing things like that. I am sorry you had to meet her, and I hope you will not have to see her anytime soon!
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Great job, Nittany! :)
Ug. That is so annoying about your safe place! But what a GREAT furmommy you are! :) I was mad at God a lot, but I feel prayer has really helped me lately.
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Congrats on jumping Nittany! I think that was probably much better for you than stewing over that pregnant woman. I'm really sorry that the baby free zone of dog competition became wrecked for you by her presence, but if I may, I am really proud of you for moving on and jumping your dog. Seems to me like you turned lemons into lemonade in that moment.
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Well done on the jump - sounds like you and Nittany make a very good team! And as to the pregnant lady...ugh. It never fails to amaze me how safety zones very quickly convert to...other things:( I'm sorry about that.
ReplyDeleteYay for jumping with your dock dog! (and boo for pregnant women who smoke!) I so hope you can make tea because I have been wanting to do the dock dog thing with our 2-year-old lab and can't wait to pick your brain about it! ;-)
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Maddy
That would have driven me crazy. After my first miscarriage a woman I worked with got pregnant and then proceeded to smoke through her entire pregnancy. It was all I could do everyday to not say something to her that would have cost me my job. Grrrrr!
ReplyDeleteBut yay for the awesome performance from your dog!
Congrats on Nittany's great jump! I'm sure you're an awesome fur-mommy & she's lucky to have you!!
ReplyDeleteA pg woman smoking would kill me. It just reinforces my feelings that life is so unfair! She doesn't deserve to be a mother!!!!
Yay for Nittany!!
ReplyDeleteSmoking pregnant women make me sick. I don't know how or why people do that and think it's ok.
Ok - good things first. Yayyyyy for you and Nittany! That is wonderful that she had such a great jump. We have 4 dogs and two of them would be fabulous jumpers. It just sounds so fun!
ReplyDeleteAs for that stupid woman - I am so sorry you had to endure that. It's just sickening that anyone who wants a child and has trouble having one has to endure looking at some moron like her. There isnt a day that goes by that I don't question WHY some people can get pregnant and have children only to harm or mistreat them. I love my God but I don't pretend to understand it. I never will. In any event...I am so very sorry for your pain. (((hugs)))
Oh, Wow. Kelly, I'm so sorry.
ReplyDeleteThere are hoards of pregnant women where I'm living now and it's just...oh, just so hard.
You are strong. You are living. You are beautiful.
Found your blog while looking through friend's list and ICLW and you're very strong for not commenting to her! I know I would have had a cow about that.. probably not directly told her off, but would have spoken near her. Perhaps how I've felt lately I would've spilled my story and how she should be GRATEFUL to be pregnant.
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