I'm writing here because I don't know what else to do and I'm just so incredibly upset. I was part of a close group in college. There were about 14 of us who shared classes and often went out for drinks, etc. I recently reconnected with one on FB and we caught up, which was nice. It was interesting though, because the entire time we're talking about our jobs and getting married, I knew there was a gaping hole in my story. I didn't tell her about any of my angels.
She didn't tell me about hers either.
The last few days, her status updates have been about her leaving for a trip to Ireland (which she did yesterday). This morning her update said, "A year ago today I experienced the most powerful love and loss of my life. Our sleeping angel was born... I wish she was alive and healthy and with us."
I am so sad for her. I can't imagine her pain and her exciting trip to Ireland takes on another whole dimension now. She's doing something with her husband that she'll enjoy, as much as she can, without being at home with painful reminders of what happened a year ago.
I struggled for a long time and finally decided to send her a message. I'm not sure if she'll respond but if not, that's ok. I told her how sorry I was and told her that although I know it's not the same, that I've had four losses in just over a year. I offered my ear if she wanted to talk but also said that I respect her privacy.
Can you keep her in your thoughts today?
Consider it done. So very sad. You are such a sweet friend...
ReplyDeleteWow, that is so sad. I am so sorry for your friend. I will definitely keep her in my thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteDone and done. It was very brave of her to post that, and I am glad you are able to be there for her. HUGS.
ReplyDeleteDone. I think it's wonderful that you reached out to her.
ReplyDeleteThat is so sad. My heart breaks for your friend. It's tragic! Prayers granted.
ReplyDeleteYes, she is in my thoughts and prayers. It continues to amaze me how many people deal with infertility and miscarriages. I hope that you can share and help heal each other.
ReplyDeleteSaying a prayer now for your friend and one for the day that baby loss won't be such an unspeakable pain.
ReplyDeletethank you for stopping by my blog, happy ICLW to you as well
ReplyDeletei'm so sorry for you and your friend, I have never been thru a MC but know so many who have.
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It's very true that we just don't know how many other people have been through these things... and just didn't share them. I will keep your friend in my thoughts...
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry about your friend. Posting on Facebook is brave and my guess is that she is probably going to appreciate your message deeply. (I know I would.)
ReplyDeleteDefinitely thinking of your friend. I wonder sometimes how many of us have these secrets. I've been coming out of the closet little by little, and I keep running into these people. It's so nice to have others that understand our pain. I'm glad you sent a message to your friend.
ReplyDeleteOh my, I am sorry for your friend loss. Hopefully she will respond with open an open heart and arms ! (((HUGS)) to you both.
ReplyDeleteGood for you for reaching out! I've just recently outed myself on FB (after our second loss) and a few friends have reached out to ME that way. It makes me feel so much less alone, and I've discovered a few IRL IF sisters that I never knew I had.
ReplyDeleteI bet she responds in kind, maybe not right away, but when she returns from her trip.
Big hugs,
Jo
Hi - I just found your blog and it seems pretty similar in that we both have had 4 losses and none past the first trimester. It's sad that such terrible things happen....
ReplyDeleteI'll be hoping the best for you and your husband and I'm so sorry for your losses.
-Christa (icantcontroleverything.blogspot.com)
I'm sorry for you losses and for your friend as well. Don't beat yourself up too badly, I'm sure she will be touched by your kind message.
ReplyDeleteTake care,
Happy ICLW #50